PDF downloads for couples
—Dr Denise Cooper-Clarke, Dr Andrew Cameron, Rev David Palmer, Mr. Chris Meney, Rev. Rod Benson, Dr John McClean, Mr Jim Wallace and A/Prof Nicholas Tonti-Filippini
Many Christians will be aware of the campaign for so-called marriage "equality". A bill currently before the Australian Parliament aims to change the current definition of marriage to allow same sex couples to marry. This would represent a radical revision of the public understanding of marriage as a social institution, and a radical challenge to the Christian understanding of marriage. Federal Parliamentarians have been asked to "gauge their constituents' views on ways to achieve equal treatment for same sex couples including marirage".
What are our views as Christians on this issue? And why should we engage in the political debate? This paper seeks to answer these questions, setting out the case in favour of retaining the current Federal law which defines marriage as the union of a man and a woman to the exclusion of all others, voluntarily entered into for life.
DEARLY BELOVED: We are gathered here today to witness the fact that getting married and staying married is not a piece of cake. It is a ginormous, humongous, exhilarating, terrifying, life-changing leap into the great unknown. And depending on where you’re at right now in your relationship, you could be feeling all sorts of things: from the ‘high-highs’ when you’re convinced you could live forever on the pure, sweet air of love alone ... to the ‘low-lows’ when you seriously think about dressing in black and sitting outside in the rain writing depressing poetry that no one, not even your dog, would dare to read.
Somewhere in the middle of these two extremes is the place where most couples live. And if you’re a nearlywed counting down the hours to your Big Day ... or a newlywed who dived head-first into marriage a year or two back ... read on, because this one’s for you!
—The Litchfield County Times, February 2007, Laurel Tuohy
Even the strongest relationships may feel the strain of planning a wedding and every couple handles it differently. Geraldine Kerr, a therapist who specializes in marriage and family counseling in southern New Jersey said, "Some people become very rigid and won't flex at all. Then their mate may get jitters when they see their partner's reaction and think, 'Oh my God, is this the person I want to marry?
I've never seen this side of them,' and that's very real."
—Star Tribune, February 2007
Many churches are using programs such as Prepare/Enrich, founded by a University of Minnesota professor, to counsel couples who are entering their second or third marriages.
—Shape Magazine, October 1997
More than a Million couples have taken a Compatibility Test to find out if they are marriage material. Should You?
As the topic of matrimonial success and divorce is studied more and more, research is showing that how a couple weathers their first two years together can make or break their marriage. A study, "The Connubial Crucible: Newlywed Years as Predictors of Marital Delight, Distress, and Divorce" by Ted L. Huston, John P. Caughlin, Renate M. Houts, Shanna E. Smith, and Laura J. George was published in The Journal of Personality and Social Psychology ( 2001;80:237-252).